I meant to post this Tuesday, but I ended up going out for coffee with a few friends and knocking a painting off of a wall. I'll have to tell you the story sometime.
1. Have you ever bought a membership to a porn site? If yes, what is the most recent one and did you like it?
I have never purchased a membership for a porn site. I can think of a few where I would buy one though. DOMAI is probably chief among them.
2. Would you rather watch an erotic/porn movie, read a story, or listen to an audio? Why?
All three have their selling points. Men are more likely to be aroused by something visual, so that's one for films. Stories allow the imagination to be used to great effect, whether it's creating the perfect scenario or the perfect partner. So that's one for stories. Audio provides something tangible while allowing the imagination to be used (and I find certain sounds to be erotic or alluring) so that's one for audio. Of course, 90% of anything is sh!t.
I would have to say I would prefer video (for obvious reasons) and you can just close your eyes if you want audio only anyway. Stories are a close second. I think a lot of it has to do with what mood I'm in. If I was aroused, I'd probably go for the video. If I was aroused and romantic, I'd go for the story.
3. If you have a significant other what do you do for each other to get in the mood? If you don't, what could a future potential long term partner do to get you in the mood?
I'm honestly not sure. I think it varies from person to person and relationship to relationship. A might find something sexy when B does it, but not when C does it in a relationship a year later.
4. When it comes to sex, how much do you talk about it with others? How comfortable are you talking about sex?
Sex and sexuality is a common topic among my peer group. I don't talk about sex at all with family members and occasionally anonymously. The comfort level has a lot to do with who I'm talking to and how old they are. That said, I know I shouldn't be uncomfortable or embarrassed talking about sex with anyone. I just perceive social conditioning (etiquette, taboos, etc.) to be quite strong and that has a subconscious effect on me.
5. What are the last 5 things you searched for on Google (or another search engine)?
I can only give you the last two: 'epanaphora' and 'Woodstock lyrics.'
Bonus: Have you ever had a fantasy that you were ashamed of?
I can't think of anything scandalous. Just two obvious ones that I think most people have: classmates and the attractive girl next door. Of course, this was back when I thought being ashamed of sexual fantasies was in vogue.
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Tuesday, April 28, 2009
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Thanks to one of Blogger's widgets (or honest charity, I can't be sure)I am hyper linked at the home of that most gracious of cephalopod wordsmiths, The Digital Cuttlefish. Unfortunately, the good poet's blog is dormant. I still highly encourage my readers to pop on over and browse through his (or her?) collection of witty verse. Buy a copy of their book if you feel so inclined, I'm sure he (or she) will appreciate it in these tough times.
I suppose if I'm going to be getting more traffic (unlikely) I should do some more work and post more thoughtful entries more often (even less likely.) So please take the time to move your cursor over to the right and cast a vote. Hopefully, it will give me more focus and a better idea of what my readers like and/or desire.
I'm not going to participate in TMI Tuesday this week, and I haven't participated in it the last two weeks. The questions that were posted were either not applicable to me, or ones that I didn't find particularly interested in answering. Not to mention that most of them weren't very TMI. I wonder if maybe the more TMI questions they had were all used up in the first hundred or so installments. Maybe I'll have to suggest a few to the editors.
On a completely unrelated note, my hair is getting to the length where I would normally get a haircut. I don't want one. I've never had my hair fairly long, and I want to try it. I might get a trim here or there to neaten it up or keep it out of my eyes or ears, but I don't want one of these either. (Sorry, ichthyology joke.)
I also need to start writing some poetry for Storyteller's charity drive. Maybe I'll read some of the works of Sappho first, for some inspiration. (Now isn't that odd!)
I suppose if I'm going to be getting more traffic (unlikely) I should do some more work and post more thoughtful entries more often (even less likely.) So please take the time to move your cursor over to the right and cast a vote. Hopefully, it will give me more focus and a better idea of what my readers like and/or desire.
I'm not going to participate in TMI Tuesday this week, and I haven't participated in it the last two weeks. The questions that were posted were either not applicable to me, or ones that I didn't find particularly interested in answering. Not to mention that most of them weren't very TMI. I wonder if maybe the more TMI questions they had were all used up in the first hundred or so installments. Maybe I'll have to suggest a few to the editors.
On a completely unrelated note, my hair is getting to the length where I would normally get a haircut. I don't want one. I've never had my hair fairly long, and I want to try it. I might get a trim here or there to neaten it up or keep it out of my eyes or ears, but I don't want one of these either. (Sorry, ichthyology joke.)
I also need to start writing some poetry for Storyteller's charity drive. Maybe I'll read some of the works of Sappho first, for some inspiration. (Now isn't that odd!)
Friday, April 10, 2009
TMI Tuesday #181
1. Have you ever had a sexual experience with the opposite sex?
No.
2. When you see someone you like, how do you act, how do you get their attention?
It depends on the person and how I relate to them. Most of the time I get someone's attention by saying 'hello.'
3. Dominate or dominated, which do you prefer?
I'll take the latter over the former. I wouldn't feel comfortable in the position of a dominant. I prefer my partners to be equals.
4. Would you/ Have you ever had a threesome?
I would, but I never have.
5. When was the last time you had sex?
I've never had sex.
6. Sex on the first date...good or bad?
That would depend on the specifics. I'm not going to say it's good or bad...I don't know.
7. Do you have any random or out of the ordinary turn ons?
I can think of quite a few things that could be considered turn-ons, or enhance the sensuality of a sexual experience for me. Long hair, glasses, natural bodies, being out-of-doors, tattoos, fur, spanking(?), red hair, brown hair, expressiveness, "pegging," smaller breasts (I find rather large ones a turn-off), and let's say autogynephilia too.
8. What attributes attract you to a potential partner?
I think intelligence, open-mindedness, and enthusiasm are the important ones. I especially like women that will step out of conventional gender roles and make the first move.
No.
2. When you see someone you like, how do you act, how do you get their attention?
It depends on the person and how I relate to them. Most of the time I get someone's attention by saying 'hello.'
3. Dominate or dominated, which do you prefer?
I'll take the latter over the former. I wouldn't feel comfortable in the position of a dominant. I prefer my partners to be equals.
4. Would you/ Have you ever had a threesome?
I would, but I never have.
5. When was the last time you had sex?
I've never had sex.
6. Sex on the first date...good or bad?
That would depend on the specifics. I'm not going to say it's good or bad...I don't know.
7. Do you have any random or out of the ordinary turn ons?
I can think of quite a few things that could be considered turn-ons, or enhance the sensuality of a sexual experience for me. Long hair, glasses, natural bodies, being out-of-doors, tattoos, fur, spanking(?), red hair, brown hair, expressiveness, "pegging," smaller breasts (I find rather large ones a turn-off), and let's say autogynephilia too.
8. What attributes attract you to a potential partner?
I think intelligence, open-mindedness, and enthusiasm are the important ones. I especially like women that will step out of conventional gender roles and make the first move.
TMI Tuesday #180
1. Have you ever sent or received a sext message?
No. I don't have a cell phone.
2. Have you ever made or received a booty call?
No.
3. Have you ever added or edited a word/entry to Wikipedia or Urban Dictionary or any other online reference?
No.
4. At what age did you have your first consensual sexual experience?
Not applicable.
5. What has been the greatest age difference between you a consensual sexual partner?
Not applicable.
Bonus: Why do you blog?
I think I blog for a lot of reasons. It's something to do. It's a way to express myself pseudo-anonymously without costing anything. It allows me to develop my ideas and practice my writing skills. Of course, there's peer pressure there too. Lots of other people where starting to blog, or had already started, when I did.
No. I don't have a cell phone.
2. Have you ever made or received a booty call?
No.
3. Have you ever added or edited a word/entry to Wikipedia or Urban Dictionary or any other online reference?
No.
4. At what age did you have your first consensual sexual experience?
Not applicable.
5. What has been the greatest age difference between you a consensual sexual partner?
Not applicable.
Bonus: Why do you blog?
I think I blog for a lot of reasons. It's something to do. It's a way to express myself pseudo-anonymously without costing anything. It allows me to develop my ideas and practice my writing skills. Of course, there's peer pressure there too. Lots of other people where starting to blog, or had already started, when I did.
TMI Tuesday #179
1. Ever Googled a date, a potential date or an ex?
Nope.
2. Do you gossip?
I guess. Most people do to some extent.
3. How many people do you completely trust?
I can think of several people I trust, but only a few I completely trust. At least one person, for sure.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car?
No. It's on the to-do list.*
5. What is your best flirting technique: innuendo, telling a dirty joke, talking about sex life, or physical contact?
I don't know. I'm not a flirty person.
Bonus: How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?
For sex, none. Does masturbation count?**
* I meant that as a joke, so only take it semi-seriously.
** You're not finding that number out.
Nope.
2. Do you gossip?
I guess. Most people do to some extent.
3. How many people do you completely trust?
I can think of several people I trust, but only a few I completely trust. At least one person, for sure.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car?
No. It's on the to-do list.*
5. What is your best flirting technique: innuendo, telling a dirty joke, talking about sex life, or physical contact?
I don't know. I'm not a flirty person.
Bonus: How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?
For sex, none. Does masturbation count?**
* I meant that as a joke, so only take it semi-seriously.
** You're not finding that number out.
TMI Tuesday #178
1. Don't tell us what it is, but do you have a sexual secret you have never told anyone?
Of course I do.
2. Do you have a nonsexual secret you have never told anyone?
Probably, but I can't think of it.
3. Did you ever tell someone a secret only to have them spill it? What were the repercussions?
I can't recall an incident like that. It's probably happened to me at one point, it seems to happen to lots of people.
4. Did you ever spill a secret someone told you? What were the repercussions?
See my previous answer.
5. Tell us a secret someone told you, however long ago, that you've never told. (You can disguise names or details.)
If I could remember any secrets, I would tell you one.
Of course I do.
2. Do you have a nonsexual secret you have never told anyone?
Probably, but I can't think of it.
3. Did you ever tell someone a secret only to have them spill it? What were the repercussions?
I can't recall an incident like that. It's probably happened to me at one point, it seems to happen to lots of people.
4. Did you ever spill a secret someone told you? What were the repercussions?
See my previous answer.
5. Tell us a secret someone told you, however long ago, that you've never told. (You can disguise names or details.)
If I could remember any secrets, I would tell you one.
TMI Tuesday #177
1. Are you pro-marriage? Why or why not?
That would depend on how you define pro-marriage, but generally no. I think marriage is a social institution that government has no business dealing with in the first place. Government gives tax breaks and benefits to those who are married over those that aren't. The same goes for people that have children versus those that don't. Arguably these two things are in the government's interest, because young people stimulate the economy by spending money and providing labour. Even given that, I view it as the government discriminating against those who elect not to get married or have children.
If you define pro-marriage as "heterosexuals only" I'm even more against it because it's obviously discriminatory.
2. Have you ever invented or thought you invented a sexual position?
Not that I'm aware of. But if anyone has invented one, someone else has probably already discovered it first.
3. Do you like to be tied up? Always or sometimes?
I haven't tried that. I'll say yes-sometimes.
4. Do you consider online cybering adultery?
It would depend on the individuals involved in the relationship and the type of relationship they have. At this point in my life my answer would be no.
5. Do you prefer masturbation over real sex?
God, I hope not.
6. Do you want sex more times a day than your partner?
Not applicable to me.
7. Do you get offended when your partner openly flirts with others or are you okay with it?
This isn't applicable to me either. I would say that this answer is also dependent on the individuals in the relationship and the type of relationship they're in.
8. Do you think you're flirty by nature?
I think I'm too serious and introverted to be flirty by nature.
That would depend on how you define pro-marriage, but generally no. I think marriage is a social institution that government has no business dealing with in the first place. Government gives tax breaks and benefits to those who are married over those that aren't. The same goes for people that have children versus those that don't. Arguably these two things are in the government's interest, because young people stimulate the economy by spending money and providing labour. Even given that, I view it as the government discriminating against those who elect not to get married or have children.
If you define pro-marriage as "heterosexuals only" I'm even more against it because it's obviously discriminatory.
2. Have you ever invented or thought you invented a sexual position?
Not that I'm aware of. But if anyone has invented one, someone else has probably already discovered it first.
3. Do you like to be tied up? Always or sometimes?
I haven't tried that. I'll say yes-sometimes.
4. Do you consider online cybering adultery?
It would depend on the individuals involved in the relationship and the type of relationship they have. At this point in my life my answer would be no.
5. Do you prefer masturbation over real sex?
God, I hope not.
6. Do you want sex more times a day than your partner?
Not applicable to me.
7. Do you get offended when your partner openly flirts with others or are you okay with it?
This isn't applicable to me either. I would say that this answer is also dependent on the individuals in the relationship and the type of relationship they're in.
8. Do you think you're flirty by nature?
I think I'm too serious and introverted to be flirty by nature.
TMI Tuesday #176
1. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that you were sure in advance you would hate (or never try) and then discovered to your surprise you loved?
Nothing comes immediately to mind. Mind you, I haven't experimented a whole lot. My opportunities have been somewhat limited.
2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?
Not yet. See my previous answer.
3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?
The first question isn't applicable to me; and the second I'm not sure I have an answer for.
4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?
Not applicable to me.
5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realize was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?
Not a sexual opportunity. I can think of one opportunity-not a sexual one-that got away, but I couldn't have acted on it anyway. I probably would have been too young to appreciate it as I would now anyway.
Nothing comes immediately to mind. Mind you, I haven't experimented a whole lot. My opportunities have been somewhat limited.
2. Is there a sexual act/position/practice that proved a lot less interesting in practice than you thought it would be beforehand?
Not yet. See my previous answer.
3. How do you let your significant other know you're in the mood? How do you let a new person in your life know?
The first question isn't applicable to me; and the second I'm not sure I have an answer for.
4. How does your significant other let you know he/she is in the mood?
Not applicable to me.
5. Is there one that got away - a sexual opportunity you didn't realize was one at the time, or weren't ready for and regret missing ever since?
Not a sexual opportunity. I can think of one opportunity-not a sexual one-that got away, but I couldn't have acted on it anyway. I probably would have been too young to appreciate it as I would now anyway.
TMI Tuesday #175
1. What do find is the most exciting part of a new sexual encounter?
I think most women would say that the most exciting part of a sexual encounter is the foreplay. (Let's face it-orgasm doesn't always happen, but when it does it's amazing, albeit brief.) I'm tempted to agree. Foreplay sets the tone for everything that follows, and builds the tension that is oh-so-important.
2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
Not applicable to me at the moment.
3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
It takes me a long time to build trust. I wouldn't be as open and honest in real life with someone I just met, compared to writing on here or with one of my friends.
4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
Generally speaking, not very. I guess I haven't found that perfect job yet.
5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent of your child's friend or...)?
Once again, not very. As I said, it takes me a while to build trust in a person.
Bonus: Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
I refuse to do that because there is no such thing as 'normal' when it comes to sexuality. Even suggesting an average would be laughable.
I think most women would say that the most exciting part of a sexual encounter is the foreplay. (Let's face it-orgasm doesn't always happen, but when it does it's amazing, albeit brief.) I'm tempted to agree. Foreplay sets the tone for everything that follows, and builds the tension that is oh-so-important.
2. Do you have "a most exciting part of a sexual encounter" with a usual partner?
Not applicable to me at the moment.
3. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you just met?
It takes me a long time to build trust. I wouldn't be as open and honest in real life with someone I just met, compared to writing on here or with one of my friends.
4. How open and honest are you about your life with someone you work with?
Generally speaking, not very. I guess I haven't found that perfect job yet.
5. How open and honest are you about your life with a casual acquaintance who lives in your neighborhood (or the parent of your child's friend or...)?
Once again, not very. As I said, it takes me a while to build trust in a person.
Bonus: Define a "normal" as in "normal relationship" or "normal sex life".
I refuse to do that because there is no such thing as 'normal' when it comes to sexuality. Even suggesting an average would be laughable.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
TMI Tuesday #174
1. What is your favorite charity? Do you you give your time or just money to that charity?
If I had to pick, it would be the International Wolf Centre. To date, they haven't been the beneficiary of my money or my time. I'm hoping that will change. I just really like wolves.
2. Describe your bed. What side do you sleep on?
It's a twin size bed with a blue mattress cover. I sleep with on my side with my pillows in a herringbone pattern with the darker one under my head. That way, I don't see any hair that's fallen out of my scalp when I wake up in the morning. If my bed was alongside a wall, I'd sleep facing it.
3. How important is a partners kissing ability?
It depends on the couple and whether you like kissing or not. For me, I'm not sure.
4. Have you ever "taken advantage" of a person under the influence of alcohol? Have you ever been "taken advantage" of while under the influence of alcohol?
No and no. Also, that's statutory rape.
5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
Nope.
Bonus: What kind of birth control do you use?
Not applicable to me. (Alternate answer: virginity.)
If I had to pick, it would be the International Wolf Centre. To date, they haven't been the beneficiary of my money or my time. I'm hoping that will change. I just really like wolves.
2. Describe your bed. What side do you sleep on?
It's a twin size bed with a blue mattress cover. I sleep with on my side with my pillows in a herringbone pattern with the darker one under my head. That way, I don't see any hair that's fallen out of my scalp when I wake up in the morning. If my bed was alongside a wall, I'd sleep facing it.
3. How important is a partners kissing ability?
It depends on the couple and whether you like kissing or not. For me, I'm not sure.
4. Have you ever "taken advantage" of a person under the influence of alcohol? Have you ever been "taken advantage" of while under the influence of alcohol?
No and no. Also, that's statutory rape.
5. Ever tried to replay the famous scene from From Here to Eternity? How was it?
Nope.
Bonus: What kind of birth control do you use?
Not applicable to me. (Alternate answer: virginity.)
TMI Tuesday #173
1. What do you think is the un-sexiest part of the body?
I mostly agree with Storyteller, Zepplinphan, et al on this one but I want to expand on it a bit. Human genitalia, male and female, can be beautiful. I think a lot of it has to do with conditioning. Considering how much of sex and the human body has been considered taboo over history, I think that the male penis and female vulva have become symbols for sex and that is why we associate our desires with them. There's also a lot of biology behind that too. However we're still conditioned enough to feel ashamed about it or not admit our true thoughts on the matter fully. I came to the conclusion quite a while ago (philosophically speaking) that there is nothing about anything that makes it inherently attractive or unattractive.
2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?
Over. It's an OCD thing.
3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?
No. That sounds really blissful though.
4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?
Thankfully, no. I somehow managed to change the subject before things got too awkward. Every time. I think the people hired by the school board for that sort of thing are more qualified anyway.
5. What is one thing someone could do to you to rock your world?
I have no idea. Maybe if I opened my door one day and one of my friends played an awesome rock solo on guitar complete with light effects and smoke machines. I think that would be sweet.
Bonus: What does sex mean to you?
As far as I can think of it, sex is probably the closest thing to a religious experience I can imagine. Something sacred. [NSFW] It is the penultimate joining of two persons, physically and emotionally. (No The Da Vinci Code crap, please.) Ideally it is the recognition of one's own needs and desires and another's needs and desires fulfilled with passion and emotion. Of course, sometimes sex is just that-sex.
I mostly agree with Storyteller, Zepplinphan, et al on this one but I want to expand on it a bit. Human genitalia, male and female, can be beautiful. I think a lot of it has to do with conditioning. Considering how much of sex and the human body has been considered taboo over history, I think that the male penis and female vulva have become symbols for sex and that is why we associate our desires with them. There's also a lot of biology behind that too. However we're still conditioned enough to feel ashamed about it or not admit our true thoughts on the matter fully. I came to the conclusion quite a while ago (philosophically speaking) that there is nothing about anything that makes it inherently attractive or unattractive.
2. Toilet paper: over, under, or what the hell are you talking about?
Over. It's an OCD thing.
3. Have you ever called in sick to stay in bed with a sexual partner?
No. That sounds really blissful though.
4. Did your parents have a "birds & bees" talk with you? If so, at what age?
Thankfully, no. I somehow managed to change the subject before things got too awkward. Every time. I think the people hired by the school board for that sort of thing are more qualified anyway.
5. What is one thing someone could do to you to rock your world?
I have no idea. Maybe if I opened my door one day and one of my friends played an awesome rock solo on guitar complete with light effects and smoke machines. I think that would be sweet.
Bonus: What does sex mean to you?
As far as I can think of it, sex is probably the closest thing to a religious experience I can imagine. Something sacred. [NSFW] It is the penultimate joining of two persons, physically and emotionally. (No The Da Vinci Code crap, please.) Ideally it is the recognition of one's own needs and desires and another's needs and desires fulfilled with passion and emotion. Of course, sometimes sex is just that-sex.
Monday, February 23, 2009
TMI Tuesday #172
1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
I'm going to assume you literally mean sleeping. It depends on how I'm feeling. Normally, I don't like being touched very much or in certain ways. If it's a cold night or I'm feeling depressed though, it's nice to have someone to cuddle up to. It's comforting and reassuring. I'm under the impression that I move around a lot when I'm sleeping, so maybe the better question is "How much or how little contact do others like to have with me when I'm sleeping?"
2. What do you think is an appropriate amount of time for a divorced parent to date before introducing the kids to the new 'special' person in their life?
At first I interpreted this as "What do you think is an appropriate amount of time for a divorced parent to wait before introducing the kids to the new 'special' person in their life?"
For dating, I don't think it matters a whole lot. It's easier to avoid awkward questions with younger children and adult children would probably understand. It's the 8-18 crowd that might have some difficulty.
As for my interpretation, I would wait six months or so before introducing a steady S/O to younger children.
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
[Scene: An oddly BDSM-themed prison courtyard with a prisoner, a warden, and two scantily clad guards. The prisoner is manacled to a wall.]
Warden: "Do you have any last words?"
Prisoner: "Yes. All three."
Guards: [They shoot the Prisoner.]
Prisoner: [Le petit mort]
If I had to pick ONE, I'd say experimentation because that covers all three.
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
I haven't kissed a whole lot by anyone's standard, so I'll say passion. If I wanted passionless kisses, I'd go down to the fish market. (Har, har, cold fish!)
5. Describe your sex life in two words.
"Not there."
(Double interpretation FTW!)
Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell....
Not applicable, so no.
I'm going to assume you literally mean sleeping. It depends on how I'm feeling. Normally, I don't like being touched very much or in certain ways. If it's a cold night or I'm feeling depressed though, it's nice to have someone to cuddle up to. It's comforting and reassuring. I'm under the impression that I move around a lot when I'm sleeping, so maybe the better question is "How much or how little contact do others like to have with me when I'm sleeping?"
2. What do you think is an appropriate amount of time for a divorced parent to date before introducing the kids to the new 'special' person in their life?
At first I interpreted this as "What do you think is an appropriate amount of time for a divorced parent to wait before introducing the kids to the new 'special' person in their life?"
For dating, I don't think it matters a whole lot. It's easier to avoid awkward questions with younger children and adult children would probably understand. It's the 8-18 crowd that might have some difficulty.
As for my interpretation, I would wait six months or so before introducing a steady S/O to younger children.
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed... romance, experimentation or foreplay?
[Scene: An oddly BDSM-themed prison courtyard with a prisoner, a warden, and two scantily clad guards. The prisoner is manacled to a wall.]
Warden: "Do you have any last words?"
Prisoner: "Yes. All three."
Guards: [They shoot the Prisoner.]
Prisoner: [Le petit mort]
If I had to pick ONE, I'd say experimentation because that covers all three.
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
I haven't kissed a whole lot by anyone's standard, so I'll say passion. If I wanted passionless kisses, I'd go down to the fish market. (Har, har, cold fish!)
5. Describe your sex life in two words.
"Not there."
(Double interpretation FTW!)
Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell....
Not applicable, so no.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
TMI Tuesday Power Hour
Can I complete five TMI Tuesdays in one hour?
TMI Tuesday #166 - Merry Christmas!
1. What present do you hope ends up under your tree?
I wanted a Chapters iRewards membership...and I got it!
2. What present are you most psyched about giving?
I got a friend of mine some inflatable packaging from work as a sort of gag gift. I'm not sure if she's popped it yet.
3. Do you prefer to give or receive?
I'll say give. (You're more likely to receive something if you give something first. ;) )
4. What is your favorite part of a sexual partner's body?
Ignoring the naughty bits...the back, the sides of the neck, and the ridges at the top of the pelvis. Oh, and the sides of the ribcage. But please, no anorexic models.
5. What is the favorite part of your body - the one you hope a sexual partner will find or pay the most attention to?
I'm still a bit uncomfortable about my body...my 'sex esteem' if you will. Although that's improved in the last few years. I think the back of my neck is a fairly erogenous zone. Especially the knobs on my vertebrae.
Bonus: What Christmas wishes would you grant to whom? I don't really know what any of my friends' or family members' Christmas wishes were. I guess I'll have to wait until next year.
TMI Tuesday #167 - Happy New Year!
1. Last week was "The Most Wonderful time of the Year", but what are your favorite 2008 memories?
My favorite memories involve my friends. I enjoy myself the most when I'm around them.
2. What is the best thing you learned in 2008?
I'm not entirely sure. Maybe having the personal experience of being a wage slave is the most significant.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how good was your 2008?
I'm going to say an eight. It wasn't amazing, but I graduated and got a decent job. I also grew closer to my friends, and made a few new ones.
4. What is your wish for 2009? What is your wish for someone else for 2009?
I don't want the Republicans in the U.S. or the Conservatives (and the lukewarm Liberals, for that matter) here in Canada to screw things up anymore than they already are. I think most of us can agree on that.
5. Where was the first place you ever passionately kissed?
I'll tell you when I find out. :(
Bonus:Do you make New Year's resolutions? What is/are your's for 2009?
In 2008, my New Year's Resolution was to stop making New Year's resolutions.
TMI Tuesday #168 - Would You Rather...
1. Would you rather be stranded on an island alone or with someone you dislike/don't get along with?
I think I'd rather be stranded with someone I don't get along with. Best case scenario: We learn to tolerate each other. Worst case scenario: One of us becomes a cannibal.
2. Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents having sex or have them walk in on you?
Seriously? I'll take the latter over the former.
3. Would you rather be snapped by paparazzi during a nipple slip or while exiting a car without any underwear?
(Guys, consider similar circumstances.)
I think I'll take the former this time.
4. Would you rather not have sex for two years or not be able to use the Internet for two years?
I've gotten this far without sex just fine, so I'll say the former.
5. Would you rather find true love or 1 million dollars?
Without getting into a philosophical debate about the existence of true love, I'll say true love.
Bonus: If you had to choose *one* sexual position for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why?
I can't think of any conceivable circumstance where you'd be forced to chose one sexual position for the rest of your life. (That would be really boring.) Anyway, I'm going to go with the Lotus because it's really intimate.
TMI Tuesday #169 - Back to TMI Basics
1. On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your sex life?
I'll say a five. I'd like a sex life, but I've been able to survive this long.
2. If someone shoves you up against a wall while kissing you, your reaction is?
"WTF? ... This is hot..."
3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done or said to you?
I'm not sure. I haven't had a romance, so to speak.
4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?
Not applicable to me.
5. How do you liked to be kissed?
Softly, I think.
Bonus: Most embarrassing sexual moment?
Not applicable either.
TMI Tuesday #170
1. Have you ever dated/married purely for money?
No, and I don't particularly plan on it.
2. What is your type?
I'm going to answer this in a different way. My Myers-Briggs is INTP, although the last two have been F's and J's in the past. I think I'd be compatible with other IN-- types.
3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?
I've never played a sex game. I've played games with sexual questions, but not a sex game.
4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?
No I haven't.
5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?
'No I haven't' for this one too.
Bonus: At what age do you think men and women reach their sexual peak? Do you think you have hit yours yet?
I think men hit their sexual peak between 17-25. Women around 25-32. I imagine I'm in mine right now. (Don't let it go to waste girls! [And maybe some guys.])
TMI Tuesday #166 - Merry Christmas!
1. What present do you hope ends up under your tree?
I wanted a Chapters iRewards membership...and I got it!
2. What present are you most psyched about giving?
I got a friend of mine some inflatable packaging from work as a sort of gag gift. I'm not sure if she's popped it yet.
3. Do you prefer to give or receive?
I'll say give. (You're more likely to receive something if you give something first. ;) )
4. What is your favorite part of a sexual partner's body?
Ignoring the naughty bits...the back, the sides of the neck, and the ridges at the top of the pelvis. Oh, and the sides of the ribcage. But please, no anorexic models.
5. What is the favorite part of your body - the one you hope a sexual partner will find or pay the most attention to?
I'm still a bit uncomfortable about my body...my 'sex esteem' if you will. Although that's improved in the last few years. I think the back of my neck is a fairly erogenous zone. Especially the knobs on my vertebrae.
Bonus: What Christmas wishes would you grant to whom? I don't really know what any of my friends' or family members' Christmas wishes were. I guess I'll have to wait until next year.
TMI Tuesday #167 - Happy New Year!
1. Last week was "The Most Wonderful time of the Year", but what are your favorite 2008 memories?
My favorite memories involve my friends. I enjoy myself the most when I'm around them.
2. What is the best thing you learned in 2008?
I'm not entirely sure. Maybe having the personal experience of being a wage slave is the most significant.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how good was your 2008?
I'm going to say an eight. It wasn't amazing, but I graduated and got a decent job. I also grew closer to my friends, and made a few new ones.
4. What is your wish for 2009? What is your wish for someone else for 2009?
I don't want the Republicans in the U.S. or the Conservatives (and the lukewarm Liberals, for that matter) here in Canada to screw things up anymore than they already are. I think most of us can agree on that.
5. Where was the first place you ever passionately kissed?
I'll tell you when I find out. :(
Bonus:Do you make New Year's resolutions? What is/are your's for 2009?
In 2008, my New Year's Resolution was to stop making New Year's resolutions.
TMI Tuesday #168 - Would You Rather...
1. Would you rather be stranded on an island alone or with someone you dislike/don't get along with?
I think I'd rather be stranded with someone I don't get along with. Best case scenario: We learn to tolerate each other. Worst case scenario: One of us becomes a cannibal.
2. Would you rather accidentally walk in on your parents having sex or have them walk in on you?
Seriously? I'll take the latter over the former.
3. Would you rather be snapped by paparazzi during a nipple slip or while exiting a car without any underwear?
(Guys, consider similar circumstances.)
I think I'll take the former this time.
4. Would you rather not have sex for two years or not be able to use the Internet for two years?
I've gotten this far without sex just fine, so I'll say the former.
5. Would you rather find true love or 1 million dollars?
Without getting into a philosophical debate about the existence of true love, I'll say true love.
Bonus: If you had to choose *one* sexual position for the rest of your life, what would it be? Why?
I can't think of any conceivable circumstance where you'd be forced to chose one sexual position for the rest of your life. (That would be really boring.) Anyway, I'm going to go with the Lotus because it's really intimate.
TMI Tuesday #169 - Back to TMI Basics
1. On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with your sex life?
I'll say a five. I'd like a sex life, but I've been able to survive this long.
2. If someone shoves you up against a wall while kissing you, your reaction is?
"WTF? ... This is hot..."
3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done or said to you?
I'm not sure. I haven't had a romance, so to speak.
4. Where is the most unusual place you have ever had sex?
Not applicable to me.
5. How do you liked to be kissed?
Softly, I think.
Bonus: Most embarrassing sexual moment?
Not applicable either.
TMI Tuesday #170
1. Have you ever dated/married purely for money?
No, and I don't particularly plan on it.
2. What is your type?
I'm going to answer this in a different way. My Myers-Briggs is INTP, although the last two have been F's and J's in the past. I think I'd be compatible with other IN-- types.
3. What is the best sex game you have ever played?
I've never played a sex game. I've played games with sexual questions, but not a sex game.
4. Have you ever given or received an orgasm from a person whose last name you did not know?
No I haven't.
5. Have you ever masturbated in front of a sexual partner?
'No I haven't' for this one too.
Bonus: At what age do you think men and women reach their sexual peak? Do you think you have hit yours yet?
I think men hit their sexual peak between 17-25. Women around 25-32. I imagine I'm in mine right now. (Don't let it go to waste girls! [And maybe some guys.])
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
TMI Tuesday #165
1. What is the greatest age difference between you and a SO? Older or younger?
Not applicable to me, unfortunately. However, I think this is appropriate.
2. What is the greatest age difference between you and any sexual partner? Older or younger?
Also not applicable, unfortunately.
3. Have you started your holiday shopping? Is it done?
As far as I'm concerned, my holiday shopping is done. I may buy one or two small things as an afterthought.
4. What are the chances there will be a "naughty" present under the tree this year (either from you or for you)?
Not very likely, I'm afraid.
5. What is your favorite holiday song?
John Lennon's "So This is Xmas" is a favorite. I'm sure I have others, but I don't know their names off-hand.
Bonus:Do you have a preferred time of day to have sex? If so, why?
No, I don't see that mattering much right now.
Not applicable to me, unfortunately. However, I think this is appropriate.
2. What is the greatest age difference between you and any sexual partner? Older or younger?
Also not applicable, unfortunately.
3. Have you started your holiday shopping? Is it done?
As far as I'm concerned, my holiday shopping is done. I may buy one or two small things as an afterthought.
4. What are the chances there will be a "naughty" present under the tree this year (either from you or for you)?
Not very likely, I'm afraid.
5. What is your favorite holiday song?
John Lennon's "So This is Xmas" is a favorite. I'm sure I have others, but I don't know their names off-hand.
Bonus:Do you have a preferred time of day to have sex? If so, why?
No, I don't see that mattering much right now.
Tuesday, December 09, 2008
TMI Twos-day 2
TMI Tuesday # 163
1. What are your turn-ons?
Ignoring the givens.... Long hair (also "Emo" hair while I'm at it), boots (knee- or thigh-high), corsets. I'm sure there are some other ones I can't think of right now. Also, I consider myself a bit of a doraphile. (Google it if you have to.) Not that I have an actual attraction to an item, but I find the feel very sensuous. I think that it would enhance the sensation felt during the act. (Which ultimately is the point if it's not for procreation, right? And even those two don't need to be mutually exclusive.)
2. What are your turn-offs?
Lack of intelligence, intolerance, manipulative/obnoxious/loud people, yadda yadda rama-lama ding-dong.
3. Not counting your turn-ons, what's the best trait a person can have?
An open mind and willingness to experiment with new things and new ideas.
4. Not counting your turn-offs, what's the worst trait a person can have?
Willful ignorance.
5. What's your biggest pet peeve?
Dishes that are supposed to be clean, but aren't.
Bonus: Describe your best and worst experience.
Author's Note: These are non-sexual.
Best: Too many to choose from.
Worst: Depression. Definitely depression.
TMI Tuesday #164
1. Do you consider sexy underthings a present for you or your partner?
Giving sexy undergarments as a gift definitely seems self serving. Although, I suppose it depends on the couple.
2. What are 3 characteristics of "your type"? Have your best relationship(s) been with your type or when you have gone against it?
I'm not exactly sure what 'my type' would be. Something like the strong, silent type I guess. I haven't had a serious relationship with anyone, so this question isn't really applicable.
3. What is on your Santa list this year?
A membership card for Chapters, some money and gift certificates. Nothing special.
4. Generally speaking, who has historically had a higher libido, you or your partner(s)?
This isn't really applicable either because I've never had a partner and I don't have one now. I would assume me simply because of the stereotype of young and horny males.
5. The unsculptured female bush seems to have passed from fashion. What about men, do you think they need to trim and shave "down there"?
I don't entirely agree. I can appreciate a natural, trimmed, or shaved bush on a woman. The natural image still has a following.
I can't speak for other men, but I honestly don't like having untamed pubic hair. I'd rather have it trimmed or shaved, it makes me feel a bit...awkward? Ugly?
Bonus:What are a few of your favorite things (both sexual non-sexual)?
Good food and drink, candles, fireplaces, spending some quality time with friends. As far as sexual things go, I like women that take initiative. Aggressive women, even. I think it's because I'm introverted and insecure. Confident women make me feel more comfortable.
1. What are your turn-ons?
Ignoring the givens.... Long hair (also "Emo" hair while I'm at it), boots (knee- or thigh-high), corsets. I'm sure there are some other ones I can't think of right now. Also, I consider myself a bit of a doraphile. (Google it if you have to.) Not that I have an actual attraction to an item, but I find the feel very sensuous. I think that it would enhance the sensation felt during the act. (Which ultimately is the point if it's not for procreation, right? And even those two don't need to be mutually exclusive.)
2. What are your turn-offs?
Lack of intelligence, intolerance, manipulative/obnoxious/loud people, yadda yadda rama-lama ding-dong.
3. Not counting your turn-ons, what's the best trait a person can have?
An open mind and willingness to experiment with new things and new ideas.
4. Not counting your turn-offs, what's the worst trait a person can have?
Willful ignorance.
5. What's your biggest pet peeve?
Dishes that are supposed to be clean, but aren't.
Bonus: Describe your best and worst experience.
Author's Note: These are non-sexual.
Best: Too many to choose from.
Worst: Depression. Definitely depression.
TMI Tuesday #164
1. Do you consider sexy underthings a present for you or your partner?
Giving sexy undergarments as a gift definitely seems self serving. Although, I suppose it depends on the couple.
2. What are 3 characteristics of "your type"? Have your best relationship(s) been with your type or when you have gone against it?
I'm not exactly sure what 'my type' would be. Something like the strong, silent type I guess. I haven't had a serious relationship with anyone, so this question isn't really applicable.
3. What is on your Santa list this year?
A membership card for Chapters, some money and gift certificates. Nothing special.
4. Generally speaking, who has historically had a higher libido, you or your partner(s)?
This isn't really applicable either because I've never had a partner and I don't have one now. I would assume me simply because of the stereotype of young and horny males.
5. The unsculptured female bush seems to have passed from fashion. What about men, do you think they need to trim and shave "down there"?
I don't entirely agree. I can appreciate a natural, trimmed, or shaved bush on a woman. The natural image still has a following.
I can't speak for other men, but I honestly don't like having untamed pubic hair. I'd rather have it trimmed or shaved, it makes me feel a bit...awkward? Ugly?
Bonus:What are a few of your favorite things (both sexual non-sexual)?
Good food and drink, candles, fireplaces, spending some quality time with friends. As far as sexual things go, I like women that take initiative. Aggressive women, even. I think it's because I'm introverted and insecure. Confident women make me feel more comfortable.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
TMI Tuesday #162
TMI Tuesday #162
1. What is your favorite Thanksgiving food?
It's all good, but I really like cranberry sauce. I only have it at Thanksgiving or Christmas.
2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?
I'd rather not muck with the timeline if I could. If I had to...it's a tough call between The Backstreet Boys and N'Sync.
3. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?
It depends on what I want at that point in time. It could be anything really.
4. What is your favorite curse word?
F*ck, just because it's so versatile. If this question were about the frequency of use, it would be damn.
5. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?
Let's say Athens-around 425BCE-to philosophize with Socrates. In actuality, I'd probably go to some significant historical period. Let's say Victorian England or Rome before the fall of the republic.
Bonus:You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?
The super-power to cure radiation poisoning. I imagine it would be very useful right then.
1. What is your favorite Thanksgiving food?
It's all good, but I really like cranberry sauce. I only have it at Thanksgiving or Christmas.
2. You can flip a switch that will wipe any band or musical artist out of existence. Which one will it be?
I'd rather not muck with the timeline if I could. If I had to...it's a tough call between The Backstreet Boys and N'Sync.
3. You seem to be having an excellent day because you just came across a hundred-dollar bill on the sidewalk. Holy crap, a hundred bucks! How are you gonna spend it?
It depends on what I want at that point in time. It could be anything really.
4. What is your favorite curse word?
F*ck, just because it's so versatile. If this question were about the frequency of use, it would be damn.
5. Rufus appears out of nowhere with a time-traveling phone booth. You can go anytime in the PAST. What time are you traveling to and what are you going to do when you get there?
Let's say Athens-around 425BCE-to philosophize with Socrates. In actuality, I'd probably go to some significant historical period. Let's say Victorian England or Rome before the fall of the republic.
Bonus:You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What's it gonna be?
The super-power to cure radiation poisoning. I imagine it would be very useful right then.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
TMI Two-sday
Okay, enough puns.
TMI Tuesday #160
1. Ever been skinny dipping?
No, but I'd like to one day. Hopefully while I still look good.
2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?
Not at all, unfortunatly.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest) Do you think 'content' and 'happy' the same thing?
I'd say a six or seven. My life is far from 'perfect' but I'm better off than the majority of the people in this world. Contentedness and happiness are definitely not the same thing. Contentedness is the state of being satisfied; happiness is being delighted, pleased, or joyous.
4. What do you do to relieve stress?
Surf the Internet, play games, visit with friends, eat or drink, read, sleep, have a shower, masturbate. (Oops, how did that get there?)
5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were "the one?"
I haven't reached that point yet.
Bonus: How old were you when you first had sex? (positive experiences here...)
x + y = z
(Where x is my age now and y is the interval between now and when I lose my virginity.)
TMI Tuesday #161
1. When did you last use your cellular telephone as a flashlight?
I don't own a cellphone, so never.
2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?
In private, I'd say about six. With other people around? Let's say three.
3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?
This just isn't applicable.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?
No I haven't. (Uncomfortable much?)
5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?
Whenever I don't want to die of starvation? I don't know what would qualify as medication. I usually have a drink with dinner or after I get home from work.
I'm not going to do the bonus this week. I'm not sure how to answer.
TMI Tuesday #160
1. Ever been skinny dipping?
No, but I'd like to one day. Hopefully while I still look good.
2. How often do you kiss or make out without it simply being a foreplay activity?
Not at all, unfortunatly.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how content are you with your life? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest) Do you think 'content' and 'happy' the same thing?
I'd say a six or seven. My life is far from 'perfect' but I'm better off than the majority of the people in this world. Contentedness and happiness are definitely not the same thing. Contentedness is the state of being satisfied; happiness is being delighted, pleased, or joyous.
4. What do you do to relieve stress?
Surf the Internet, play games, visit with friends, eat or drink, read, sleep, have a shower, masturbate. (Oops, how did that get there?)
5. What was the special trait in your first lover that made you decide that they were "the one?"
I haven't reached that point yet.
Bonus: How old were you when you first had sex? (positive experiences here...)
x + y = z
(Where x is my age now and y is the interval between now and when I lose my virginity.)
TMI Tuesday #161
1. When did you last use your cellular telephone as a flashlight?
I don't own a cellphone, so never.
2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?
In private, I'd say about six. With other people around? Let's say three.
3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?
This just isn't applicable.
4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?
No I haven't. (Uncomfortable much?)
5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?
Whenever I don't want to die of starvation? I don't know what would qualify as medication. I usually have a drink with dinner or after I get home from work.
I'm not going to do the bonus this week. I'm not sure how to answer.
Sunday, November 09, 2008
Tardy TMI Tuesday Trifecta Two
(Two, four, six, eight, look at me alliterate!)
TMI Tuesday #157
1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Yes. Quite a few times, actually. For a while I used to worry that it was a spiritual/religious thing. I know now that I was buying into the social stigmas around sexuality, and that what I was experiencing was actually a hormone crash. When it comes down to it testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, and adrenaline are little more than drugs.
2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
I never did, and I don't need one now.
3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
I don't think I lie very often. I prefer being candid. I used to lie a fair bit in high school about my homework. I imagine I still tell white lies occasionally. Sometimes social etiquette requires it.
4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
Generally speaking, I don't receive criticism very well. It's a bit easier to accept constructive criticism because it's ultimately to my own benefit. I'll say a 5 or 6.
5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
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Yes. I don't mind arm hair or leg hair. But I don't like having body hair or pubic hair. I don't mind it on other people though. Just not having it seems neater, cleaner. I feel that it gives me more sex appeal. It's also a confidence thing. You can walk down the street and tell yourself "I know something you don't."
Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?
I'm not going to throw numbers around. I'm not a sociologist. FWB's are interesting things. I think the greatest concern with a FWB would be an actual relationship evolving, which is probably what FWB's are designed to avoid. Sex can be just sex; deeper emotions need not be involved. Sometimes people just need to de-stress and indulge their desires. I don't think most men have the social awareness to recognize this and may assume that a relationship exists where one does not. Conversely, I think most women do have the social awareness to recognize that fact.
TMI Tuesday #158 - Firsts!!!
1. Who and when was your first crush?
Kindergarten, I think. I don't remember her name.
2. Who and when was your first date?
No 'official' dates thus far. 'Unofficial' dates? I'm not sure what the first one would be.
3. Who and when was your first kiss?
I don't think that's actually happened yet. *blush*
4. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a car?
Hasn't happened yet.
5. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a house?
Hasn't happened yet.
6. Who and when was your first love?
As far as romantic love is concerned, I don't think anyone. There's certainly been plenty of platonic-, familial-, and puppy love.
Bonus: Who's blog did you first comment on?
Damned if I can remember.
TMI Tuesday #159
1. Have you ever had a moving violation? An auto accident? That was your fault?
No, no, and no.
2. Have you ever voted? How old was your were you the first time you voted?
Yes. I was eighteen.
3. Are you glad this election cycle is over?
Yes.
4. Do you have a guilty pleasure? What is it (or are they)?
Everything. No, not really. Dark chocolate is definitely one. Books are another.
5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have done recently?
I don't know. Ask the people that laugh at me.
Bonus: How much impact has the Wall Street and general economic wilt had on you?
It's made me reconsider opening a new bank account, and made me reluctant to invest in stocks. That's about it so far.
TMI Tuesday #157
1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Yes. Quite a few times, actually. For a while I used to worry that it was a spiritual/religious thing. I know now that I was buying into the social stigmas around sexuality, and that what I was experiencing was actually a hormone crash. When it comes down to it testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, and adrenaline are little more than drugs.
2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
I never did, and I don't need one now.
3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
I don't think I lie very often. I prefer being candid. I used to lie a fair bit in high school about my homework. I imagine I still tell white lies occasionally. Sometimes social etiquette requires it.
4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
Generally speaking, I don't receive criticism very well. It's a bit easier to accept constructive criticism because it's ultimately to my own benefit. I'll say a 5 or 6.
5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
Overshare in 3...
2...
1...
Yes. I don't mind arm hair or leg hair. But I don't like having body hair or pubic hair. I don't mind it on other people though. Just not having it seems neater, cleaner. I feel that it gives me more sex appeal. It's also a confidence thing. You can walk down the street and tell yourself "I know something you don't."
Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a "friends with benefits" relationship? How about men?
I'm not going to throw numbers around. I'm not a sociologist. FWB's are interesting things. I think the greatest concern with a FWB would be an actual relationship evolving, which is probably what FWB's are designed to avoid. Sex can be just sex; deeper emotions need not be involved. Sometimes people just need to de-stress and indulge their desires. I don't think most men have the social awareness to recognize this and may assume that a relationship exists where one does not. Conversely, I think most women do have the social awareness to recognize that fact.
TMI Tuesday #158 - Firsts!!!
1. Who and when was your first crush?
Kindergarten, I think. I don't remember her name.
2. Who and when was your first date?
No 'official' dates thus far. 'Unofficial' dates? I'm not sure what the first one would be.
3. Who and when was your first kiss?
I don't think that's actually happened yet. *blush*
4. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a car?
Hasn't happened yet.
5. Who and when was your first partner while "fooling around" in a house?
Hasn't happened yet.
6. Who and when was your first love?
As far as romantic love is concerned, I don't think anyone. There's certainly been plenty of platonic-, familial-, and puppy love.
Bonus: Who's blog did you first comment on?
Damned if I can remember.
TMI Tuesday #159
1. Have you ever had a moving violation? An auto accident? That was your fault?
No, no, and no.
2. Have you ever voted? How old was your were you the first time you voted?
Yes. I was eighteen.
3. Are you glad this election cycle is over?
Yes.
4. Do you have a guilty pleasure? What is it (or are they)?
Everything. No, not really. Dark chocolate is definitely one. Books are another.
5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have done recently?
I don't know. Ask the people that laugh at me.
Bonus: How much impact has the Wall Street and general economic wilt had on you?
It's made me reconsider opening a new bank account, and made me reluctant to invest in stocks. That's about it so far.
Friday, October 17, 2008
TMI Tuesday #156 - Foresight
I've often described myself as a private person. Given the rise of cell phones, instant messaging, and social networking websites, I sometimes wonder if that is truly the case. We've all heard the horror stories: employers finding incriminating photos of their employees and the like. The Internet has gained a sort of disassociation from reality in the public mind. People seem to forget that they are not always anonymous on the Internet.
Social pressure is a powerful force. It's why I often refrain from voicing my opinions except to a few close friends. I realize this is detrimental to my own interests and the interests of society, namely the free flow of ideas. Consequently, I've removed the disclaimers from some of my previous entries. No one has the right to not be offended. So here's throwing caution to the wind; and this week's TMIs.
1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you're interested in an intimate evening?
I've never had a partner and I've honestly never had a serious relationship. In lieu of a deep impressive answer I'll settle for "Hey, wanna have sex?"
2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?
Once again, I'm not speaking from experience. But suffice it to say that foreplay is very important. It's what makes the rest of sex as enjoyable as it is. I'm sure a lot of people overlook foreplay for the act of sex itself; but I imagine that foreplay is a truly enjoyable experience in and of itself. Last but not least, foreplay builds tension.
3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?
I have no clue. A lot of people seem to enjoy kissing and roaming hands. (To clarify, I know what to do but I don't know what I would do.)
4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?
I would like to think the latter and not the former. Again, building tension.
BONUS: If you are interested in sex with a same-sex partner, what would be the first thing you'd like to touch on that other person, and why? (For those already in same sex relationships...what was the first thing you touched, or if you were interested in a relationship with the opposite sex, what would be the first thing you touched?)
[Overshare Imminent]
Just what my friends need to know about. My gay fantasy. I can think of a few things that I could find attractive on a guy...the chest, shoulders, neck, ears, hair. I'd probably go for the ass...just to find out what it's like.
Social pressure is a powerful force. It's why I often refrain from voicing my opinions except to a few close friends. I realize this is detrimental to my own interests and the interests of society, namely the free flow of ideas. Consequently, I've removed the disclaimers from some of my previous entries. No one has the right to not be offended. So here's throwing caution to the wind; and this week's TMIs.
1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you're interested in an intimate evening?
I've never had a partner and I've honestly never had a serious relationship. In lieu of a deep impressive answer I'll settle for "Hey, wanna have sex?"
2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?
Once again, I'm not speaking from experience. But suffice it to say that foreplay is very important. It's what makes the rest of sex as enjoyable as it is. I'm sure a lot of people overlook foreplay for the act of sex itself; but I imagine that foreplay is a truly enjoyable experience in and of itself. Last but not least, foreplay builds tension.
3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?
I have no clue. A lot of people seem to enjoy kissing and roaming hands. (To clarify, I know what to do but I don't know what I would do.)
4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?
I would like to think the latter and not the former. Again, building tension.
BONUS: If you are interested in sex with a same-sex partner, what would be the first thing you'd like to touch on that other person, and why? (For those already in same sex relationships...what was the first thing you touched, or if you were interested in a relationship with the opposite sex, what would be the first thing you touched?)
[Overshare Imminent]
Just what my friends need to know about. My gay fantasy. I can think of a few things that I could find attractive on a guy...the chest, shoulders, neck, ears, hair. I'd probably go for the ass...just to find out what it's like.
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
TMI Tuesday #155 -- The Seven Virtues
1. Prudence: When do you feel it is most important to exercise prudence? When is it acceptable to throw practicality out the window?
Being Obsessive-Compulsive, some misinformed people might think I try to be prudent all the time. I'm not. At it's heart, Obsessive-Compulsive disorder is an illness of irrationality dressed in the trappings of rational fears and responses. Besides, I only have mild OCD anyway.
My friends know this. We joke around and make jabs at each other. (Some of them might even say I have a sense of humour.) Sometimes they flirt, but they rarely take it seriously.
I think it is the most important to exercise prudence when the consequences can affect other people. For example, their health and well being. Politics is a second example. My opinion is that a voter who is not well-informed has the responsibility to not cast a ballot and not vote based on petty reasons.
2. Justice: Is a sense of justice really a virtue, or is only a tool that allows us to pass judgment on others without feeling guilty? What do you feel is the greatest injustice facing the world today?
I think this very much depends on the eye of the beholder. Imagine a society where Social Contract Theory or Consent Theory provides the basis for the rule of law. To a member of that society, a sense of justice might seem like a virtue because of all the reinforcing messages that person is exposed to. To an external observer however, it may appear to be a mechanism for passing judgment without experiencing the associated guilt.
The greatest injustice facing the world today? That's easy: the continued prevalence of human stupidity and indifference.
3. Temperance: All things in moderation. Should we allow ourselves a few excesses? How well do you restrain yourself when faced with your deepest desires?
A few excesses now and then are definitely allowable. What are our labours if not for our fruits?
Saying that, I think I restrain myself fairly well. I save what I can, and I don't spend beyond my means. I wonder if I've been too stingy. What is the purpose of wealth if you never use it to enrich your life or the lives of others?
4. Courage/Fortitude: How well do you confront fear and uncertainty, or intimidation? Does facing the little things make you as brave as facing the big things?
I don't deal with these well. It's because of my obsessions. I usually get very anxious and I try to avoid my problems instead of confronting them. If small issues bother me, larger issues probably bother me more.
5. Faith: Is it important to have faith? How steadfast are you in your core beliefs? Do your core beliefs equate to faith in something?
I'm having some qualms about this question. Depending on the definition of faith it could mean very different things. Following from the first definition, I have no problems saying I have faith in my friends, or my ability to get out of bed and go to work tomorrow.
Given the second definition, I'm inclined to say it's foolish, possibly detrimental, to have faith. I wouldn't consider it a virtue in this case.
6. Hope: Does having hope for the future help you deal with the present? How good are you at finding the good in the bad? What is the thing you hope for most?
I suppose it does. I tend to daydream a lot, create a rough plan for my life. I think I try to examine a problem from all angles to find the good in it but I'm ultimately a realist. In a broad sense, I don't know what I hope for the most. In the short-term I'd like an easy Wed-Thu-Fri at work.
7. Love/Charity: How easy is it for you to give selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness? How easy is it for you to receive selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness?
I think I'm fairly good at giving selfless and unconditional love and kindness. Receiving is another story. I have a strong independent streak and I have difficulty accepting help from others, especially if it's unsolicited. I've surmised that I consider it an attack on my ability to fend for myself.
[Why is there no bonus this week? And what happened to the 'TMI' part?]
~The Muse
Being Obsessive-Compulsive, some misinformed people might think I try to be prudent all the time. I'm not. At it's heart, Obsessive-Compulsive disorder is an illness of irrationality dressed in the trappings of rational fears and responses. Besides, I only have mild OCD anyway.
My friends know this. We joke around and make jabs at each other. (Some of them might even say I have a sense of humour.) Sometimes they flirt, but they rarely take it seriously.
I think it is the most important to exercise prudence when the consequences can affect other people. For example, their health and well being. Politics is a second example. My opinion is that a voter who is not well-informed has the responsibility to not cast a ballot and not vote based on petty reasons.
2. Justice: Is a sense of justice really a virtue, or is only a tool that allows us to pass judgment on others without feeling guilty? What do you feel is the greatest injustice facing the world today?
I think this very much depends on the eye of the beholder. Imagine a society where Social Contract Theory or Consent Theory provides the basis for the rule of law. To a member of that society, a sense of justice might seem like a virtue because of all the reinforcing messages that person is exposed to. To an external observer however, it may appear to be a mechanism for passing judgment without experiencing the associated guilt.
The greatest injustice facing the world today? That's easy: the continued prevalence of human stupidity and indifference.
3. Temperance: All things in moderation. Should we allow ourselves a few excesses? How well do you restrain yourself when faced with your deepest desires?
A few excesses now and then are definitely allowable. What are our labours if not for our fruits?
Saying that, I think I restrain myself fairly well. I save what I can, and I don't spend beyond my means. I wonder if I've been too stingy. What is the purpose of wealth if you never use it to enrich your life or the lives of others?
4. Courage/Fortitude: How well do you confront fear and uncertainty, or intimidation? Does facing the little things make you as brave as facing the big things?
I don't deal with these well. It's because of my obsessions. I usually get very anxious and I try to avoid my problems instead of confronting them. If small issues bother me, larger issues probably bother me more.
5. Faith: Is it important to have faith? How steadfast are you in your core beliefs? Do your core beliefs equate to faith in something?
I'm having some qualms about this question. Depending on the definition of faith it could mean very different things. Following from the first definition, I have no problems saying I have faith in my friends, or my ability to get out of bed and go to work tomorrow.
Given the second definition, I'm inclined to say it's foolish, possibly detrimental, to have faith. I wouldn't consider it a virtue in this case.
6. Hope: Does having hope for the future help you deal with the present? How good are you at finding the good in the bad? What is the thing you hope for most?
I suppose it does. I tend to daydream a lot, create a rough plan for my life. I think I try to examine a problem from all angles to find the good in it but I'm ultimately a realist. In a broad sense, I don't know what I hope for the most. In the short-term I'd like an easy Wed-Thu-Fri at work.
7. Love/Charity: How easy is it for you to give selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness? How easy is it for you to receive selfless, unconditional, and voluntary loving-kindness?
I think I'm fairly good at giving selfless and unconditional love and kindness. Receiving is another story. I have a strong independent streak and I have difficulty accepting help from others, especially if it's unsolicited. I've surmised that I consider it an attack on my ability to fend for myself.
[Why is there no bonus this week? And what happened to the 'TMI' part?]
~The Muse
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